What is a Normal Marriage, and Is That Good or Bad?

Poorly dressed older couple joking with cigarsWhen I started this blog, I didn’t really explain what I meant by the term “normal marriage.”  I just jumped right into talking about marriage and never really addressed it.  In this post, let me correct that oversight and talk about what it means to have a “normal marriage.”

When you say the words “normal marriage” to people, you’re bound to get a reaction.  Initially, people laugh at the idea that there is such a thing as a “normal marriage.”  But after laughing, most people are curious and they want to know more.  People ask the same three questions…

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How to Have Power and Influence

concept of leadership & authority - big fish leading small fisheWho doesn’t want to have power and influence?  That’s why people rise through the ranks, store up wealth, connect with the right people, and change things around them.  It’s a desire to attain some sort of power and influence.  That’s not necessarily bad.

But people often overlook the two things that would make them most powerful and influential.

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Why Did This Have To Happen?

Statue Of Women On TombHow can someone be here one minute and gone the next?  How can life be going so well and then come undone?  How can I feel fine one day and get this diagnosis the next?  How can I buy a home and then find out later they’re doing away with my job?  Why did this have to happen?

If you’ve ever experienced life threatening news, you know these questions.   You’ve asked these questions.  You’ve looked for answers to these questions.  Maybe you’re still looking for answers.

All you want to know is, “Why did this have to happen?”

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Why Can’t I Get What I Want?

EV001104Why can’t I get what I want?  Maybe you’ve asked that question in marriage.  Maybe it was when your spouse was not helping around the house.  Maybe it was when you wanted to relax and your spouse wanted you to run an errand.  Maybe it was when your spouse wasn’t interested in sex, or was too interested in sex.  Whatever it was, you found yourself asking, “Why can’t I get what I want?”

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Wisdom

Human brain work metaphor made of rusty metal gearsWisdom.  Who doesn’t want to be wise?  Everyone wants wisdom, especially when there’s an important decision to be made.

So why is it wisdom sometimes eludes us?  We can all look back at decisions we made or paths we took and say, “That wasn’t very wise.”

Maybe it’s because we tend to think of wisdom as a natural, innate ability that you either haver or you don’t.

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Good Funeral Stories

Depositphotos_1761627_xsNext time you attend a funeral, listen to the conversations about the deceased.  I’m not talking about the carefully crafted, flowery words of the eulogy.  I’m talking about the side conversations in the hall ways and outside the building.  These are the conversations that reveal who the person was and the impact they had on others.

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Life at Full Throttle

hand on manual gear shift knobWhen you hear the phrase “life at full throttle,” what comes to mind?  Extreme sports? Risky investments? Exotic travel?  Extreme career changes?

Life at full throttle doesn’t have to be glitzy or glamorous.  It doesn’t have to be reckless or irresponsible.  It doesn’t even have to be selfish or ego driven.

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