The Great Pyramid of Marriage

Giza pyramids, cairo, egyptEveryone goes into their wedding ceremony expecting to spend the rest of their life with the person standing next to them. They stand before the minister with heart pounding and knees knocking, believing their marriage will last forever…like the pyramids.

But we know this is not always the case. Too many marriages crumble and fall apart, so what can we do to build a marriage that will last? How can we build a marriage that will stand the test of time…like  the pyramids?

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How Did I Miss It? How to Approach Life Like An Intersection.

Portrait of young stressed Caucasian man covers his face with haHave you ever realized you missed something really important and ask yourself, “How did I miss it?”

George Rogers Clark Memorial – Vincennes, IN

I grew up in a little farming community in southern Illinois, not far from Vincennes, Indiana. When you cross the Lincoln Memorial Bridge into Vincennes and look to your right, you see the George Rogers Clark Memorial.  It’s a National Parks Service site commemorating the capture of Fort Sackville by American forces in 1779. (Don’t worry. You won’t be tested on this.)

This beautiful national site was in my own backyard for over twenty years, and though I drove by it many times as a teenager, I only remember visiting this site once on an elementary school field trip.

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Are You Keeping Your Spouse as a Pet?

Dog foodWhen it comes to marriage, there are some things you just don’t say…that is if you want a long happy life. Things like: “Gee honey, those jeans really do make you look fat.” “I told my dad there were some things you really could learn from him.” “I don’t think your cooking will be ever be as good as my mom’s.” You just don’t say things like that in a marriage, unless you’re ready to lose both a spouse and a limb.

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Stop, Drop, and Roll

STOP DROP ROLL graphicLast week, I wrote a post entitled “Things Change.” The post was about the inevitability of change and how we should embrace it rather than fight it.

As I looked back on that post, I realized I had talked about the principle of embracing change, but didn’t give any practical suggestions on how to embrace change.

So, let’s talk about how to do that.

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It Isn’t My Anniversary, Is It?

Shock at the calendarIt’s the thing sitcoms are made of. Out of the blue, your spouse approaches you with a gift, a big hug, and an “I love you!” Hesitantly you say, Thank you,” all the while wondering, “It isn’t my anniversary, is it?”

Even if this has never happened to you, I bet you can imagine it. That feeling of being caught off guard. That feeling that maybe you missed something. Where does this kind of panic come from?

I started thinking about this after making a recent post to Facebook.

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Things Change

The Only Constant in Life is ChangeHow well do you adjust to change?  Do you embrace it or fight it. Do you find yourself going with the flow or wishing things were like they used to be? It’s been said that the only constant in life is change. So, if you want to learn how to make the most out of life you need to learn how to make the most out of change…because things change.

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Your Marriage Needs More Drive Through

Drive thru road signWhen I say your marriage needs more drive through, I’m not saying your marriage needs more fast food take out orders. (Although, how cool would it be if you could improve your marriage with more fast food?)

No, I’m talking about conversation. Now don’t roll your eyes and say, “Not another post that tells me I’m supposed to emotionally open up and share my deepest feelings with my spouse!” That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about something simple and easy. Not a complete 4 course meal at some fancy restaurant. Just drive-through.

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