Why can’t I get what I want? Maybe you’ve asked that question in marriage. Maybe it was when your spouse was not helping around the house. Maybe it was when you wanted to relax and your spouse wanted you to run an errand. Maybe it was when your spouse wasn’t interested in sex, or was too interested in sex. Whatever it was, you found yourself asking, “Why can’t I get what I want?”
Which is more important, forgiveness or justice? It depends on who you are. If you’re the offended, justice is more important. If you’re the offender, forgiveness is more important. Whether you’re looking for forgiveness or justice, you need to understand that getting it will also be problematic for you. Here’s what I mean…
No one wants to be afraid, but let’s face it…there’s a lot of things out there to fear. If we’re going to over-come our fear, we must first understand just what is feeding our fear.
When we’re growing up and we encounter things beyond our control, we tend to look for someone who is in control. We look for a parent, a teacher, a referee, a police officer…anyone who can exercise some control over our situation. But if that doesn’t work, we head down one of two paths:
I grew up in the country with a lot of farmland and a lot of barns. On top of most of those barns was a weather vane. The weather vane was usually in the shape of a rooster or some other farm animal and it would turn in the wind till it settled in a certain direction.
We can be like one of those weather vanes.