More About Me

Bret Legg and his familyI’m a teaching and counseling pastor with a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Counseling.  I have over 20 years of experience in pastoral counseling, and more than 30 of years of marriage experience…and there are still times I don’t get it right.

My wife Libby and I met in high school.  Initially, she said there was just something about my inner person.  (Actually, I think her words were, “I hate his guts!”)  After 4 years of high school, we finally went on our first date the night we graduated.  The date got off to a late start because I had to wait for her boyfriend to bring her home before I could pick her up.  (It’s the truth!)  After 3 years of mostly long distance relationship, Libby agreed to marry me, and we were married in 1980.  (Winning her over or wearing her down?  You be the judge.)

Since then, we have moved from Illinois, to Oklahoma, to Texas, to Georgia.  (No, we were not being chased by the law.)  I have worked as a technician in the oil field, as a chaplain for the terminally ill, and as a staff member in various churches.  (They all have things in common, but you can figure that out.)

Libby and I have raised two daughters, both of which now have families of their own.  We may have struggled with Empty Nest briefly, but after the taillights disappeared over the horizon, we went out to dinner and were pretty much over it.  In fact, marriage even got better…despite my failures.

Sometimes we have been nuts about each other, and sometimes just nuts.  Sometimes we’ve been madly in love, and other times just mad.  There have been times when we couldn’t bear to be apart and other times when we probably weren’t too sure about being together.  But God knew what He was doing when He put us together, (even though we were pretty clueless), and God has been teaching and growing us all along the way.

Why “Normal Marriage”?

Because that’s what most of us have. We don’t have textbook perfect marriages, and we don’t have Charlie Manson type marriages. We just have “normal” marriages filled with good times and bad, fun and frustration. The bad thing about “normal” is we tend to beat ourselves up because our marriage is not “everything it could be.” The nice thing about “normal” is we’re not at the bottom of the rating and we can make it better…usually in small, everyday ways. Normal can be quite wonderful if you let it. You don’t have to have a “great” marriage to have a great marriage.

2 thoughts on “More About Me”

  1. I recognize completely with your life. In ways mine parallels yours.
    But, taking one step further it parallels my good friend that I met in the Army who by perfect coincidence had the exact birthday, year and all, as mine. And he too was a musician like me. We played together for a military special services band all the time we were in the service. AND, what equally made me think of him was he looks so much like you!
    Since that time I have married…etc…etc… I was raised in church but had walked away when God did not put my parents marriage back together before I went into the service. I defiantly did my own thing. My wife was not a Christian when we wed but through divine situations she was saved and I repented.
    Anyway, beside the fact of identifying with marriage as you describe I also thought about my friend whom I would most like to see come to Jesus but he knows who we are now and thinks that’s okay for us but not for me attitude, that I feel I could never reach him coming from me.
    His name is Dennis R. and I would so appreciate you praying and interceding for him for salvation along with his wife Terry.
    Bless you for your ministry!
    Gerald

    • Hey Gerald. Thanks for reading and commenting. So glad to hear that God is working in you marriage. Praying for Dennis and Terry, and asking God to orchestrate a work that will bring them both to Christ. Thanks Gerald.

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