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Most of us have normal marriages. Not perfect marriages and not Charlie Manson type marriages. Just normal marriages that are both fun and frustrating. The purpose of this blog is to help you enjoy your less-than-perfect normal marriage."

Are You Dissatisfied With Your Marriage?

By Bret Legg 104| September 24, 2020

If you’ve been married for a while, maybe you’ve had this thought. It’s an unsettling thought that you’ve probably not said out loud, but it’s one you can’t seem to … Read more Are You Dissatisfied With Your Marriage?

If You and Your Spouse Are Drifting…

By Bret Legg 104| September 17, 2020

It comes on slowly. It comes on gradually. But, if you’ve been married for any length of time, I’m guessing you have felt it. The conversations have begun to fall … Read more If You and Your Spouse Are Drifting…

If There’s Been Infidelity…

By Bret Legg 104| September 10, 2020

Few things are more devastating or destructive to a marriage than infidelity. It’s worse than the death of a spouse, because when a spouse dies, it’s not intentional, it’s not … Read more If There’s Been Infidelity…

If Things Are Getting Heated…

By Bret Legg 104| September 3, 2020

Perhaps you’ve been there. You and your spouse are “discussing” something when suddenly you realize things are getting heated and going south. If it goes much further, you’ll hit a … Read more If Things Are Getting Heated…

The Three Fields: A Marriage Parable

By Bret Legg 104| August 27, 2020

The following parable is suited to many situations in life, but it’s particularly suited to marriage. Once there were three farmers. They each had a field that was not doing … Read more The Three Fields: A Marriage Parable

If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 2)

By Bret Legg 104| August 20, 2020

What do you do if you’re having trouble getting over the way your spouse has hurt you? I posed this question in the last post, but I didn’t answer it. … Read more If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 2)

If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 1)

By Bret Legg 104| August 13, 2020

We all dream of a marriage where there’s lots of fun, good connection, deep understanding, frequent sex, abundant money, perfect kids, beautiful rainbows, and dancing unicorns. But marriage can be … Read more If You Can’t Get Over How They’ve Hurt You… (Part 1)

If You’re Attracted to Someone Else…

By Bret Legg 104| August 6, 2020

Let’s cut to the chase. There will be times when we find ourselves attracted to someone other than our spouse. We don’t like to admit it, but it happens. We … Read more If You’re Attracted to Someone Else…

If Your Approaches to Parenting Differ…

By Bret Legg 104| July 30, 2020

When people come into my counseling office with marital problems, I always ask them, “When did these things start to be a problem?” The majority of people trace it back … Read more If Your Approaches to Parenting Differ…

If You Find it Difficult to Deal With Your In-Laws…

By Bret Legg 104| July 23, 2020

“It’s only for a couple of weeks. Just don’t say anything!” These were the words of caution/threat that my wife delivered to me prior to her parents’ arrival. And she … Read more If You Find it Difficult to Deal With Your In-Laws…