Most of us have normal marriages. Not perfect marriages and not Charlie Manson type marriages. Just normal marriages that are both fun and frustrating. The purpose of this blog is to help you enjoy your "less-than-perfect normal marriage."
Has Your Marriage Atrophied?
Here’s a common occurrence in counseling. A married couple comes into my office and tells me they love each other but they’re not in love with each other. The spark’s … Read more
A Heartbreaking Anniversary
What follows is a different type of post than I usually write. It’s less professional and more personal, so please forgive me if I take off my counseling hat for … Read more
Are You Asking the Wrong Questions?
I had a daughter who taught me the importance of asking the right questions. When she was a teen, If I asked how she did on an exam, she would … Read more
The Wrong Way to be Right
I have a grandson who thinks he’s right about everything. Even the things he knows nothing about! No matter what you’re talking about, he typically takes the opposing opinion, and … Read more
Speak Now or Struggle Later
Often, people in my office tell me about how their spouse said or did something that hurt or offended them. But, when I ask if they said anything to their … Read more
Infidelity!
In my opinion, infidelity is one of the most destructive blows that can be delivered to a marriage. It’s even worse than the death of a spouse because when a … Read more
Does Your Marriage Need a Time-Out?
We’re all familiar with children needing a time-out when they’re having trouble controlling themselves, but there are times when spouses need a time-out also. I’m not talking about taking a … Read more
Are You the CEO of Your Marriage?
How would you respond to the following question… “Are you the CEO in your marriage?” Maybe you would say, “Well, no! of course not!” Maybe you say your spouse acts … Read more
What to Do When Your Spouse Comes to You With a Problem
So, Your spouse comes to you with a problem and you’re really trying to be helpful. But before you know it, the whole situation has gone south and now your … Read more
How to Be More Resilient in Marriage
IS YOUR GLASS HALF-EMPTY OR HALF-FULL? I tend to be a glass-half-full person. But there are still times when demands, difficulties, and disappointments can easily drain my glass. It happens … Read more