Most of us have normal marriages. Not perfect marriages and not Charlie Manson type marriages. Just normal marriages that are both fun and frustrating. The purpose of this blog is to help you enjoy your "less-than-perfect normal marriage."

From Romance to Roommates…and Back Again!

By Bret Legg 104| July 2, 2022

“What happened to us. We use to talk all the time, have fun together, send each other love notes, and be up for anything. And now it’s like we’re just … Read more

Has Your Marriage Atrophied?

By Bret Legg 104| June 9, 2022

Here’s a common occurrence in counseling. A married couple comes into my office and tells me they love each other but they’re not in love with each other. The spark’s … Read more

A Heartbreaking Anniversary

By Bret Legg 104| June 2, 2022

What follows is a different type of post than I usually write. It’s less professional and more personal, so please forgive me if I take off my counseling hat for … Read more

Are You Asking the Wrong Questions?

By Bret Legg 104| May 26, 2022

I had a daughter who taught me the importance of asking the right questions. When she was a teen, If I asked how she did on an exam, she would … Read more

The Wrong Way to be Right

By Bret Legg 104| May 12, 2022

I have a grandson who thinks he’s right about everything. Even the things he knows nothing about! No matter what you’re talking about, he typically takes the opposing opinion, and … Read more

Speak Now or Struggle

Speak Now or Struggle Later

By Bret Legg 104| May 5, 2022

Often, people in my office tell me about how their spouse said or did something that hurt or offended them. But, when I ask if they said anything to their … Read more


By Bret Legg 104| April 21, 2022

In my opinion, infidelity is one of the most destructive blows that can be delivered to a marriage. It’s even worse than the death of a spouse because when a … Read more

Does Your Marriage Need a Time-Out?

By Bret Legg 104| April 14, 2022

We’re all familiar with children needing a time-out when they’re having trouble controlling themselves, but there are times when spouses need a time-out also. I’m not talking about taking a … Read more

Are You the CEO of Your Marriage?

By Bret Legg 104| April 7, 2022

How would you respond to the following question… “Are you the CEO in your marriage?” Maybe you would say, “Well, no! of course not!” Maybe you say your spouse acts … Read more

What to Do When Your Spouse Comes to You With a Problem

By Bret Legg 104| March 31, 2022

So, Your spouse comes to you with a problem and you’re really trying to be helpful. But before you know it, the whole situation has gone south and now your … Read more