Listen to last week’s Normal Marriage class to see what you’ve been missing. Share it with someone who might enjoy it…or need it. Then join us tonight as we continue figuring out what it means to have a normal marriage you can really enjoy.
Compatibility. It’s the idea that if you can find a person with similar personality traits, similar interests, similar backgrounds, etc. then there will be a higher probability of the relationship being successful.
But there’s a problem with this take on compatibility.
There’s a sweet spot to many things in life. There’s a sweet spot on a baseball bat that sends the ball over the fence. There’s a sweet spot for musicians where all the notes seem to come together effortlessly. There’s also a sweet spot in marriage, but what is it and how do you find it?
It was the biggest ice storms in ten years. Our power went out around 8:30 in the evening, so we lit candles and fired up the gas log in the living room. Since the living room was the warmest place in the house, we made a bed on the floor in front of the fireplace. (You probably know where this is going.)
Surveyors use a benchmark to determine clear boundaries. A benchmark is a point of reference from which everything else is measured. It’s a point that’s unchanging and immovable, because a benchmark that changes will skew all the other measurements.
Whether we realize it or not, all of us operate from some sort of benchmark.