Marriage, like bread and potato chips, can become stale over time. Ruts, routines, and indifference have a way of settling in and dulling what used to be a vibrant relationship.
What about your marriage? What are the signs that you’re living in a stale marriage?
“It’s the most unhappy people who most fear change.” – Mignon McLaughlin.
Ever find yourself just going through the motions? You’re doing what you’re suppose to do. You’re doing what others expect you to do. But you’re only doing it so others will think well of you.
Externally things look good, but internally things are not as good as they appear. You’re living behind the smoke screen of a good public persona, but it’s not really who you are.
Well, we’re in our new house! Not everything is put away yet, but it’s livable and we can get both cars in the garage! So, I’ll close this series with one final lesson I’ve learned from this experience. What I’ve learned about marriage from buying a house is that it’s easy to let routine take over your marriage.
Everybody has a different level of pain tolerance. Some have a high tolerance for pain. They have the ability to tolerate pain that others might find intolerable.
Still, other people have a very low tolerance for pain. Even a small pain feels big to them. They don’t wait to see if the headache will get worse. They take something at the first sign of a headache to make it go away. The same can be said about discouragement.
What if a better marriage didn’t demand a major over-haul? What if you could have a better marriage by making small changes?
I believe that small changes can have a big impact in marriage. Think about it this way…if a plane leaving L.A. for N.Y changes it’s course by just a degree or two, it will end up in a completely different part of the world! Small changes can be very powerful.
This time of the year, there’s a lot of talk about new year’s resolutions. Lose weight. Get organized. Eat healthy. Get on a budget. The list is long and varied, but the goal of each resolution is the same…a big change in some area of our life.
I heard a statistic that said 60% of people who make a new year’s resolution have abandoned it within six months. (Been there. Done that.)
Why do so many of us abandon our resolutions? They’re good resolutions. Important resolutions. What happens?
Last week, I wrote a post entitled “Things Change.” The post was about the inevitability of change and how we should embrace it rather than fight it.
As I looked back on that post, I realized I had talked about the principle of embracing change, but didn’t give any practical suggestions on how to embrace change.
So, let’s talk about how to do that.
How well do you adjust to change? Do you embrace it or fight it. Do you find yourself going with the flow or wishing things were like they used to be? It’s been said that the only constant in life is change. So, if you want to learn how to make the most out of life you need to learn how to make the most out of change…because things change.
In the last post, we talked about what it means to have a “normal marriage.” Here’s a quick recap:
The key to making your normal marriage good is figuring out what parts to keep and what parts to tweak.