3 Small Changes to Raise Your Discouragement Tolerance

Everybody has a different level of pain tolerance. Some have a high tolerance for pain. They have the ability to tolerate pain that others might find intolerable.

Still, other people have a very low tolerance for pain. Even a small pain feels big to them. They don’t wait to see if the headache will get worse. They take something at the first sign of a headache to make it go away. The same can be said about discouragement.

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Small Changes Can Have A Big Impact

Own House Dreams

What if a better marriage didn’t demand a major over-haul? What if you could have a better marriage by making small changes?

I believe that small changes can have a big impact in marriage. Think about it this way…if a plane leaving L.A. for N.Y changes it’s course by just a degree or two, it will end up in a completely different part of the world! Small changes can be very powerful.

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Patterns

Hand stopping dominoes falling isolated on whiteThis time of the year, there’s a lot of talk about new year’s resolutions. Lose weight. Get organized. Eat healthy. Get on a budget. The list is long and varied, but the goal of each resolution is the same…a big change in some area of our life.

I heard a statistic that said 60% of people who make a new year’s resolution have abandoned it within six months. (Been there. Done that.)

Why do so many of us abandon our resolutions? They’re good resolutions. Important resolutions. What happens?

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Stop, Drop, and Roll

STOP DROP ROLL graphicLast week, I wrote a post entitled “Things Change.” The post was about the inevitability of change and how we should embrace it rather than fight it.

As I looked back on that post, I realized I had talked about the principle of embracing change, but didn’t give any practical suggestions on how to embrace change.

So, let’s talk about how to do that.

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Things Change

The Only Constant in Life is ChangeHow well do you adjust to change?  Do you embrace it or fight it. Do you find yourself going with the flow or wishing things were like they used to be? It’s been said that the only constant in life is change. So, if you want to learn how to make the most out of life you need to learn how to make the most out of change…because things change.

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Figuring Out What to Keep and What to Tweak

Cross Roads With Blank SignsIn the last post, we talked about what it means to have a “normal marriage.”  Here’s a quick recap:

  • Everyone’s marriage is “normal”…for them.
  • There are parts of “normal” that work and should be kept.
  • There are parts of “normal” that don’t work and should be tweaked.

The key to making your normal marriage good is figuring out what parts to keep and what parts to tweak.

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What is a Normal Marriage, and Is That Good or Bad?

Poorly dressed older couple joking with cigarsWhen I started this blog, I didn’t really explain what I meant by the term “normal marriage.”  I just jumped right into talking about marriage and never really addressed it.  In this post, let me correct that oversight and talk about what it means to have a “normal marriage.”

When you say the words “normal marriage” to people, you’re bound to get a reaction.  Initially, people laugh at the idea that there is such a thing as a “normal marriage.”  But after laughing, most people are curious and they want to know more.  People ask the same three questions…

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Mr. Banks Was Not the Only One Who Needed Saving

a bowler hatI just watched the movie “Saving Mr. Banks.”  (Yeah, I’m behind in my movie watching.).  The movie is loosely based on the life of P. L. Travers, (author of the Mary Poppins books) and her thorny, combative struggle with Walt Disney over the movie rights to her book.

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