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Choice

June 26, 2016October 8, 2014 by Bret Legg

Some of the best marriage advice I’ve ever received came from Jerry Garcia of The Grateful Dead. (For those who don’t know, The Grateful Dead is a psychedelic rock band that came to fame in the midst of the drug culture of the 60’s.) In Garcia’s self-titled 1972 solo album, a song entitled “Deal” contained the following lyric…

“Since it costs a lot to win, and even more to lose, you and me got to spend some time wondering what to choose.”

When you apply this line to marriage, it’s some of the best advice you’ll find, because it reminds us…

The Great Pyramid of Marriage

April 16, 2018September 30, 2014 by Bret Legg

Everyone goes into their wedding ceremony expecting to spend the rest of their life with the person standing next to them. They stand before the minister with heart pounding and knees knocking, believing their marriage will last forever…like the pyramids.

But we know this is not always the case. Too many marriages crumble and fall apart, so what can we do to build a marriage that will last? How can we build a marriage that will stand the test of time…like the pyramids?

Living Large

April 17, 2018September 25, 2014 by Bret Legg

I have a friend who, when asked how he’s doing, will say, “I’m living large!” I love that response, because it always sounds like a challenge to do the same. I want to be living large too, but what does living large really mean?

Marital Climate Change

April 16, 2018September 23, 2014 by Bret Legg

Is climate change affecting your marriage?

These days, the subject of climate change is all over the media. Though there are differing opinions on the subject, one thing is for sure. Marital climate change is real.

How Did I Miss It? How to Approach Life Like An Intersection.

April 17, 2018September 19, 2014 by Bret Legg

Have you ever realized you missed something really important and ask yourself, “How did I miss it?”

George Rogers Clark Memorial – Vincennes, IN

I grew up in a little farming community in southern Illinois, not far from Vincennes, Indiana. When you cross the Lincoln Memorial Bridge into Vincennes and look to your right, you see the George Rogers Clark Memorial. It’s a National Parks Service site commemorating the capture of Fort Sackville by American forces in 1779. (Don’t worry. You won’t be tested on this.)

This beautiful national site was in my own backyard for over twenty years, and though I drove by it many times as a teenager, I only remember visiting this site once on an elementary school field trip.

Are You Keeping Your Spouse as a Pet?

April 17, 2018September 16, 2014 by Bret Legg

When it comes to marriage, there are some things you just don’t say…that is if you want a long happy life. Things like: “Gee honey, those jeans really do make you look fat.” “I told my dad there were some things you really could learn from him.” “I don’t think your cooking will be ever be as good as my mom’s.” You just don’t say things like that in a marriage, unless you’re ready to lose both a spouse and a limb.

Stop, Drop, and Roll

April 16, 2018September 12, 2014 by Bret Legg

Last week, I wrote a post entitled “Things Change.” The post was about the inevitability of change and how we should embrace it rather than fight it.

As I looked back on that post, I realized I had talked about the principle of embracing change, but didn’t give any practical suggestions on how to embrace change.

So, let’s talk about how to do that.

It Isn’t My Anniversary, Is It?

June 26, 2016September 9, 2014 by Bret Legg

It’s the thing sitcoms are made of. Out of the blue, your spouse approaches you with a gift, a big hug, and an “I love you!” Hesitantly you say, Thank you,” all the while wondering, “It isn’t my anniversary, is it?”

Even if this has never happened to you, I bet you can imagine it. That feeling of being caught off guard. That feeling that maybe you missed something. Where does this kind of panic come from?

I started thinking about this after making a recent post to Facebook.

Things Change

April 17, 2018September 4, 2014 by Bret Legg

How well do you adjust to change? Do you embrace it or fight it. Do you find yourself going with the flow or wishing things were like they used to be? It’s been said that the only constant in life is change. So, if you want to learn how to make the most out of life you need to learn how to make the most out of change…because things change.

Your Marriage Needs More Drive Through

April 16, 2018September 2, 2014 by Bret Legg

When I say your marriage needs more drive through, I’m not saying your marriage needs more fast food take out orders. (Although, how cool would it be if you could improve your marriage with more fast food?)

No, I’m talking about conversation. Now don’t roll your eyes and say, “Not another post that tells me I’m supposed to emotionally open up and share my deepest feelings with my spouse!” That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about something simple and easy. Not a complete 4 course meal at some fancy restaurant. Just drive-through.